With everything that happens to you, you get the two “S” or two “O’’s to choose from. You can either feel SORRY for yourself or just SMILE it away. You can either look at it as an OPPORTUNITY to grow or an OBSTACLE to keep you from growing. Every situation has a positive and a negative attached to it. We tend to flow with our feelings at that moment…and look at just the dark side of the situation. Well, I am not telling you not to feel sad…but after you’ve cried your eyes out…sit in calmness… and think. Tears have washed away the foggy visions now…look at the situation differently…with clear eyes…and Voila…I promise you….things will appear different.
Here’s a story I read on the net sometime back which is so relevant to what I am trying to say:-
A famous writer was in his study room. He picked up his pen and started writing:
**Last year, I had a surgery and my gallbladder was removed. I had to stay stuck to the bed due to this surgery for a long time.
**The same year I reached the age of 60 years and had to give up my favorite job. I had spent 30 years of my life in this publishing company.
**The same year I experienced the sorrow of the death of my father.
**And in the same year my son failed in his medical exam because he had a car accident. He had to stay in bed at hospital with the cast on for several days. The destruction of car was another loss.
AT THE END HE WROTE: ALAS! IT WAS SUCH BAD YEAR!!
When the writer's wife entered the room, she found her husband looking sad lost in his thoughts. From behind his back she read what was written on the paper. She left the room silently and came back with another paper and placed it on the side of her husband's writing.
When the writer saw this paper, he found this written on it:
**Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder due to which I had spent years in pain.
**I turned 60 with sound health and got retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write something better with more focus and peace.
**The same year my father, at the age of 95, without depending on anyone or without any critical condition met his Creator.
**The same year, God blessed my son with a new life. My car was destroyed but my son stayed alive without getting any disability.
AT THE END SHE WROTE: THIS YEAR WAS AN IMMENSE BLESSING OF GOD AND IT PASSED WELL!
See! The same incidents but different viewpoints. If we ponder with this viewpoint that what could have happened more, we would truly become thankful to the Almighty.
Moral: In our daily lives we must see that it's not happiness that makes us grateful but gratefulness that makes us happy.
There is always, always, always something to be thankful for!! Stay Blessed! Next time, when negativity clutches you in its claws, try to control your response- Take a deep breath, leave the place and the people who disturbed you immediately... Once away, calm yourself down. If you respond out of emotion you will only make it worse. Remember Thumper’s rule. “If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all.”
Divert your attention: Albert Einstein said “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” Don’t channel your energy into a negative reaction, but into something positive. Maybe listen to some calm soothing music, go for a run, swim, dance...or go for a drive. I personally prefer to meditate on it.
Accept your mistake and learn from it. Do not let anyone’s opinion become your reality. Be your own judge. Look at the situation from your own eyes.
I know it’s easy said than done. It’s hard for a person who is going through bad times. But believe me, I am not preaching here. I practice these little things. Make it a habit to look at the other side of the situation always, and I am sure you will feel better and get the strength to cope. I have been saying this again and again…..situations don’t last forever…one day they will change! Have patience. Remember-“This Too Shall Pass”.
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